What is the difference between possessive and demanding? I
never thought they could be such different character traits, until I
experienced it first-hand myself. There is this man who specifically highlights
at his first meeting that he is controlling type; which is he expects full commitment,
dedication and devotion. He utters it clearly and proudly, so I know, he is
comfortable with it and does not find it a point of weakens. You either go by
his rules or you are out of the game. Rules can be pretty strange at times:
Send me a smile every morning
Love me and miss me
Think of me at all times
Remember I am the best thing ever happened to you
Well, in his case, he has the audacity to voice out his
demands, however some men will not comfortably admit it, and yet, at the bottom
of their heart they demand it. I am sure we have all met guys who expect you to
be happy at all times when you are with them. They just can’t understand how
you could have unhappy, uneasy or uncomfortable feelings at their presence.
After all they are the magic of your life, and it is enough if they just show
up in person, you should be delighted by their mere presence. You should be so
thrilled that you will forget all other issues in a blink of an eye and unite
with them in a moment of salvation. Ok, I am dramatizing the situation, simply
because it has hurt me from time to time, however, the demanding character some
men show, is pretty disturbing and I have been the victim of such unreasonable demands
quite often. The demands can vary in nature and manifestation, they can target one’s
way of behaving, talking, even walking and it can extend to the point that they
demand you to think in certain way and be a certain person. The list can go on, perhaps in another post,
here, however, I want to discuss my way of differentiating between demanding
and possessive behaviour.
There are this kind of men who would like to be entertained
with similar kind of privileges and yet understand that human beings are a mixture
of emotional conflicts and have the right to go through hardship.
Men would like to make you happy and be the knight of your
life, this boosts their self-confidence and places them in the comfort zone
that they are the hero and will not easily be replaced. All men, experience a hard
time dealing with ambiguities and insecurities that women might inflict. However,
some men, when they are dealing with uncertainty of difficult situations, will
have the patience, and perseverance to handle it. Some men, on the other hand,
at the face of anxiety of not being able to handle the uncertain situation, will
just throw up into your face. They will feel relaxed afterwards, they have
emptied up their inner poisonous stuff and got rid of it, but you are left
there to deal with the stinking inner content of their sick mind, which will
not fade away even after few rounds of washing.
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