Why distant relationship is doomed to fail? (2)

Why do we talk to a friend?
why do we make a call?
why do we chat?

It is either to hear or to be heard! Perhaps there is something I want to share, through which I release some unwanted emotion or gain some that I am longing for. Frankly, it is nothing but satisfaction of a need.

Two days back I was thinking what to talk about when I get the call or make it, cause anyway either one will do it unconsciously; and the more I was digging the less I could find the topic. I was wondering what happened to that pile of untold? Actually, I found the answer: they were finished! The untold needed an ear, found it, and emptied up the buffer until it reached the point where the gage shows: normal. How do I know the status of gage to be normal? Unconsciously I said: "time to go home buddy! see you later".
How on earth could I come to the point of finished! The far too bragged intellectualism is nothing but a fancy shield I have developed to hide my fragile self, unsatisfied needs and unjustified desires so I can move on without hating myself! Cause I hate need and all the weakness it implies

Today, I had the same thought hanging above my head "what is to be said", but the earlier answer did not satisfy me this time. I have not been talking at all the whole day and yet I have difficulty finding the thing to talk about. Why is that? "the ice", "the intimacy", or "the distance"! Whichever! Consequences are the same; the gap will be felt sooner or later.

What stand do I take in dealing with it? Ignorance? Denial? Debate? Solution? Argument? I haven't decided yet, but I know that unless I actively and constantly engage myself in identifying this unspoken, unfelt and unseen problem and resolving it, the gap will grow wide. Bridging this wide gap in every day talk will consume all the energy reserves that I have and I know that at the end of this tunnel there is not light!